It always starts the same.  I was in my early thirties, happy, successful and living a peaceful life. 

My career was thriving in HR, marketing and recruiting as the department that I was over was growing within the hospital group. My days were filled with coffee, early mornings, late nights and time with friends, family, and my dog, Owen. I would squeeze in a run when I could. I was dating, but I saw that part of my life as a bonus and not a necessity. 

Life was good. Peaceful. I was happy.

At that time I had no idea what a high-conflict or narcissistic personality was, or that it even existed. In family court, it only takes one difficult personality to earn this label. I wish I knew then what I know now.

One glance, a little flattery, a long night of conversation, handsome, funny, charismatic, successful - it began, and the red flags were always there.

Fast forward, 15 years of marriage and two precious daughters later, the marriage was over. The night I finally put my foot down and asked him to leave is the night that I slept more soundly than I had in a decade.

I was anxious, but finally at peace and the three of us were safe…or so I thought.

When I entered family court, I thought that justice would prevail. I thought the truth would matter. I thought that you were innocent until proven guilty, and that the focus would remain on the children and decisions would always be made with their best interest at the forefront.

I believed the family court system would be research-led, trauma-informed, unbiased and driven with a sense of urgency to protect children from all forms of abuse while enforcing their human rights and holding abusers accountable.  

Growing up, I was taught that you enter into the court system to seek fairness. I assumed family court would protect the rights of protective parents and their children when they found the courage to leave. I believed it would safeguard their safety and financial stability.

Nothing could be further from the truth. 

Family court is a $50 billion industry. Keeping families in crisis and withholding the protections they need guarantees that parents and children remain stuck in a downward spiral. Many profit from it.

The public can’t protest what they do not know exists. Most do not know how broken the system is, because family court operates like a secret business. There is no oversight. No checks and balances. No one is watching. Family court is policing itself.

I had no idea I was entering into a system that prioritizes parental rights over child well-being. I didn’t know the professionals guiding these decisions were often not trauma-informed and lacked critical knowledge concerning post separation abuse.

I learned that coercive control is not recognized as a form of domestic violence and that the devastating impact on protective parents and their children is often misunderstood, minimized, and ignored when it comes to appropriate decisions and safety measures.  

I had no idea what false claims of Parental Alienation consisted of let alone how to combat them. I didn’t know that Parental Alienation is not recognized by any credible scientific body or organization, despite decades of attempts to legitimize it. Yet it remains one of the most damaging accusations used against protective parents to this day.

If a protective parent or child. reports abuse, studies show custody is twice as likely to be given to the abuser.

Post separation abuse - emotional, financial and domestic violence by proxy - combined with the corruption of the family court system and my unwavering desire to protect my two daughters is what kept us trapped and in litigation for nine years.

The abuse that we experienced during marriage was facilitated and allowed to continue by the broken system that claimed to protect us.

Early during my own “high-conflict” divorce, I felt a deep calling to become an advocate for change in the family court system. I committed to learning everything I could - not only to survive my own litigation, but to help others like me.

Today, I advocate for systemic change, legislative reform, trauma-informed practices, and greater awareness within a broken system that continues to use outdated data and outdated strategies to make life-altering decisions for families.

After completing the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program founded by Tina Swithin, I launched my consulting practice with a clear mission: to support others while advocating for systemic change. Since then, I’ve been actively involved in policy reform efforts, including contributing to the language and passage of Texas HB 3783, which passed uncontested in both the Senate and the House. I have had the honor of using my experience to support families and bring awareness to national cases highlighted in the media.

Currently I work independently or alongside the Diamant Moore law firm (Diamant Moore, P.C.), providing support in all 50-states. As a member of the ABA, my focus includes child custody issues, court preparation, combating false allegations of parental alienation, organizing documentation, facilitating legal team-building, guiding mediation and negotiations, supporting co-parenting dynamics involving high-conflict personalities. I also assist with communication strategies and navigating child custody evaluations.

In addition to helping clients face the challenges of high-conflict divorce-whether before, during, or after proceedings- my goal is to create strategies rooted in self-care. The approaches aim to reduce emotional and financial damage, and prevent families from being pulled into endless legal conflict.

My commitment is to walk. alongside my clients and be the person I once needed during my own experience. This journey is exhausting, isolating, and mentally challenging, but you are not alone.

Our stories may differ, but our truths connect us. We have walked similar paths, and together we can navigate this difficult season and lay the foundation to help you reclaim your life.

This journey demands a village. Over time I have learned to navigate this broken system while building strong relationships with trusted law professionals and others who guide families through the ever-changing experience of family court.   Family court is different  for everyone. Together we can strategize , focus on the most meaningful issues first, and develop a “chip away” method for the rest. It is a long game that takes stamina, strategy, awareness, self- care and an experienced team committed to integrity. We work tirelessly to achieve outcomes that support the best interests of the children and families.

My children are thriving, and I have rebuilt my life. My mission is to help you do the same.

Currently I live in Houston with my two daughters, my husband, and our two very spoiled rescue pups, Tanner and Junior. We are living a busy, yet peaceful, purpose-filled life.

Protection is not alienation!